How to master REAL self-care

This has zilch to do with any massages or beach days

Knight Writer
3 min readApr 23, 2022
Photo by Johannes Plenio on Unsplash

Time and time again we shirk ourselves in favor of other individual needs. We seldom take the time to assess what WE need.

It is imperative more so than ever to take good care of your mind and body for we have a war to face in the coming months.

Make sure to eat right, sleep tight (or the best you can), stock up on food, and exercise your body, it’ll make you feel better trust me 😉.

Oh, and not to mention, cut that sugar out of your diet too or minimize your intake.

Here are some legit tips for self-care:

  1. Improve that mental diet of yours.

Everything changes when you realize that you are what you eat (see what I’m saying)😌.

It’s also what you’re watching, what you’re reading, who you follow, and who you spend quality time with.

If your goal is a healthier mind, commence by getting rid of the crap in your diet.

2. Learn to let people down.

Believe it or not, your mental health is more vital than your career, financial status, other people’s opinions, that event you said you’d attend, your partner's mood, and your family’s wishes, combined.

If taking care of your mental health means letting someone down, then let them down. Eventually, they’ll get over it.

3. Put up strong boundaries, and protect them at all costs.

You just do not lose friends, real opportunities, or real relationships when you start standing up for yourself and setting boundaries for self-protection.

With time, you’ll lose abusers, manipulators, narcissists, attention seekers, and mental health-destroying, parasitical, insolent creatures.

ANYTHING you lose when you stand up for yourself is something else gained.

4. Make replacements.

In order for real self-care to take effect, it requires replacements.

Replace Netflix with rest. Replace fake influencers with inspiring creators.

Replace toxic creatures with mentors. Replace grousing with gratitude.

Replace blame with responsibility. Replace overthinking with action!

5. Look forward to your future, do NOT look back at the past.

The quest for happiness will not ameliorate your mental health if you keep the same toxic people and places that you lost.

That person is still an asshole, that relationship is still toxic, and that job still blows. Your past is your past.

Let the past be a place of reference, not residence.

6. Upgrade your library.

Most consumers spend up to nine hours a day on social media. That is astounding!

For this generation, in particular, your timeline is your library and it is one of the biggest influences on what we think.

Place better books in your library by following more people that educate and inspire.

7. Cease self-rejection.

So many people will try to thwart you from attaining your full potential. Don’t allow yourself to be one of them.

Scared you’ll be rejected? Apply for that job anyway!

Scared of the unknown? Move to that country!

Stop self-rejecting and go forth with your dreams and desires.

We need to be reminded of these tips from time to time for this world is colder by the day. Appreciate you all taking the time to read. Want to support my writing, hit the membership link and sign up. For $5 monthly you’ll have access to most of what Medium has to offer.



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